Yes, I paint my daughter’s nails.
She is almost four and I totally enjoy our mommy and me moments. I have experienced some level of criticism due to some of our seemingly unconventional activities. For example, while fixing my nails, I often ask for her nails to be painted. This is usually accompanied by side looks from some of the mothers present and one went to an extent of raising her voice at her little one who asked for same, something about nail painting being for adults only.
While I do appreciate that we all have our differences and diverse principles, I am learning to stick to a lifestyle that suits me regardless of societal norms and expectations.
I am thankful for the summer holidays which has accorded me the chance to break a very terrible habit Lil miss picked up in school – nail biting. She came home sometime in June eating her nails so bad, I was afraid her fingers will disappear! Because if this, I decided to intensify my grooming. I painted her nails every week and showed her how beautiful her nails could actually look if only she let them be. She fell in love with this as she has always been the number one admirer of my nails.
Yesterday, she showed me how long her nails had gotten and asked for us to cut them with a nail cutter! Imagine my delight! From the horrible habit of nail biting to asking for a proper cut!
I decided to share the lessons I learnt from this experience:
1. Stick to what works for you – doing things because of others never paid anyone
2. Be attentive and present to/for your children
3. Habits that are learned can definitely be unlearned – habits should never be confused for personalities
4. Be persistent
5. Trust your instincts
Motherhood is not an easy journey neither is any other path taken in life but we do have something that makes it bearable and that is staying true to who we are!
Take on this new week with the fullness of your being, nothing and no one is worth being “dead” for.