There are many things I classify as a mystery.

For example, my unending love and cravings for bread, my child looking so much like my MIL, how some people pronounce words incorrectly e.g. “Pint” (pant), the love of a mother towards her child(ren), why most men cheat, why most women despise their MILs, the closeness of a friend rather than a brother, God’s love, and the list goes on.

Sometimes I catch myself pondering through all these questions that I have no answer for.

One question that has been on my mind lately is why is parenting (motherhood) so hard?!

I always thought it was a walk in a park, certainly not as hard as I’m finding it. The worst part of it all is that I find mothers around me handling it so well!

Acha, permit me to bring you into this. You have three kids. Yet you knit, sew, blog, cook, make wigs, ride bikes, change diapers, breastfeed, – the list is endless! To say I’m jealous is a big understatement.

Here’s me struggling through my day. I can barely think up a post, barely make my hair, barely hang out / make out, e.t.c. So as I sit and ponder and I conclude that we are all different.

What else can justify a woman having post-partum depression / psychosis  while another woman like her drops three kids in three years. How do you explain that a woman waits on the Lord for many years in marriage to have kids while another conceives on the wedding night. The same applies to how some men can’t stay faithful to their spouses while a few do.

All these are mysteries to me.

Don’t get me wrong, motherhood has been the best thing that has happened to me. My daughter’s smile melts my heart, her voice quickens my heat beat, her hugs keep me warm, our never ending trip to the toilet (we are proudly potty trained!) is intriguing.

Are you a mom going through a bit of a rough time settling into your new role? You are not alone.

Are you a mom with a graduate degree in parenting? I salute you!


8 thoughts on “Mysteries

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  1. Am an expert, come n pay for tutorials. 😂😂😝.

    There should be groups where people going through same things like these can discuss and rub minds…. Like the Anonymous A group ( those giving up alcohol), abi Wetin dem dey call them.

    Nice write up as usual.

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  2. Hahahahaha! Thanks a lot, Dupe. It’s always great reading from you. I shall respond with a blog post soonest! And hey, I am certain you are doing great. I’ve written a few times about this though in bits.

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  3. I think my kids grew up amazing despite my hopeless parenting. I now have daughters in law who leave me speachless in admiration. Maybe all the internet advice really does work? Maybe our small ‘other’ world online allows us to work through our frustration, ignorance, feelings of failure and then having silently voiced them, we can move back to the real world and cope?


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